Communities represent groups of human beings established for various reasons.
Since we are social beings, communities affect your understanding about where you are coming from, where you belong to, and where you are going. You have similarities with the people in your communities. This can cause a feeling of affiliation, which you want to leverage. Your pride to finally play in the soccer team can lead to peak performance. You feel committed to the group, give it your best, and excel yourself.
Not only in sports: Each community supports its members to use their full potential.
Individuals develop physical and mental capabilities, which they did not have access to thus far. In addition, they acknowledge your efforts. They encourage you to continue walking on the common path – to contribute to their mission. Other persons can boost your motivation tremendously. This supports you to gain stability and a personal balance – through appreciation, motivation, and reflection. In addition, scientific research proofs: People, which actively contribute to communities, are healthier, happier and live longer than others live.
Start with the current state analysis. Take a piece of paper and list the communities you are currently you are belonging to now. Advise: Feel free to use our Community List.
Next review each documented community membership.
Does latter directly support you in achieving your aims in life? If yes, how?
If not, for which reasons are you part of the community? Does it support your goals indirectly? What is the value add for your current and future life? Do you have any commitments towards this community? Beware: Exception!
Only in case you can clearly reason why you belong to a certain group, you should staying it. If not, cross it out and think about how you want to step out. However, what about unavoidable communities? They do not exist. Two of the few exceptions are “human” and “skin color”. You cannot transform into another creature and color your skin differently. Michael Jackson was a special case and should not be a role model in this respect. Think about how the fact that you are human plus your skin color helps you to accomplish your aims in life. This might sound weird, yet is possible. Just be exceptionally creative. In addition, capture for the other – aims in life or contentment supporting – communities how they currently and onwards help you to achieve your goals.
Finally, think about which further communities support you in pursuing your mission. If you are studying art, it might make sense to join the local art club. If you want to be singer, you can pop into the church choir next door. If you strive to become an exceptional presenter, you visit resident speaker groups. Et cetera…
Last but not least define actions in each row of your Community List.
There are communities, which are counter to your aims in life and even affect your lust for life in a negative way. For instance, time wasting student associations, fundamentalist religious communities, or destructive debate clubs. Identify and leave them as soon as possible.
You may perceive certain group memberships as social pressure, which can make it difficult for you to get out of them. Here you want to check and balance: What is the risk or the impact of your withdrawal against the value gained by it? If the withdrawal is not worth it, stay in the group. Yet only invest as much time and energy as necessary. Use the freed up capacities to pursue your aims in life.
Do not ever accept a membership offer immediately. Ask for time to think about it. Use this time to compare the offer against your aims in life. If the group will not help you to accomplish them, you want to kindly decline.